Meet my pride and joy:
Amelia Grae Tank
My four month old butterbean :) my everything!
With that being said, I heard a GREAT quote the other day from a friend about motherhood.
"Children should be a top priority but not your ONLY priority." This made me feel so much better about how I truly feel -emotions I wouldn't post on my facebook status for every Tom, Dick and Harry to see. Although Amelia is my world, I refuse to let "mommy" be my only role. I don't want to be "type-casted" in my own life.
The ONE time I posted that she was staying over night at her grandparents house so many people felt the need to voice their opinions..."Oh, my son is almost two and I haven't been away from him over night"..."Really? How do you do it! I could never leave my daughter that long!" Really people? HOW LUCKY we are that both sets of grandparents (and greatgrand baja!) all live in Austin, and many would be thrilled to be in our situation of NEVER having to find a babysitter.
Travis and I decided when I was pregnant that we would refuse to forget that we are a young, married, happily in love couple and we will enjoy our date nights!
Since I am a stay at home mom and hardly ever leave my nest, Friday night has now become the one day a week I look forward to. I get to remember what its like to roll the windows down, listen to loud music, and HEY I might even have a few glasses of wine and enjoy it. Shoot me. This is not to say that I do not miss her like crazy while I am away but I miss being alone with my husband just as much.
I know there has to be other young mommies that I stalk on facebook that feel the same way and I have never been scared to voice my opinion. I always wanted to respond to the "haters" by saying "Do you really think never leaving her side is doing her a favor? NO. You will wind up with the child that screams like a wild banshee every time they are handed to someone else or in an unfamiliar environment. "
To prove my case, last weekend Amelia and I took our first road trip! Louisiana bound....an 8 hour drive. I was dreading how she would behave. Amelia cried ONE time. One time the entire trip between Friday morning to Sunday evening. She was handed to multiple family members and everyone kept telling me "wow, you have such a good baby!" Damn straight...
Now that I have justified my Friday night plans away from my angel, I am off to play my other favorite roll... my husbands girlfriend :)